It is fast approaching the day where we will all see pink and red hearts painted across the sky. Well maybe that is a little dramatic but it seems like it. I don’t know why but I have never been the lover of this day on the 14th of February. I think I did as a child making a card box and having our party and passing out the little valentines to each of our classmates was fun but as I grew older the excitement fizzled. Now I have loves of my life. I love my husband and I adore my children but I think I can say and express I love you everyday with them. I don’t need a special day to show them I love them.
I have a fond memory of Valentines day when in college. I was away to college in New Mexico and a couple friends and I decided to take a day and make homemade cards for our families and loved ones. That was so fun we made hearts and took paper lace and made stacks of cards. This is what the day should be to us every year in my opinion. A want to show love and affection, not a deadline to get your card and buy buy buy and get caught up in the consumerism of the world. I made cards for whom I loved. Maybe my dislike started during the 10 years I worked at a prison. Do you know how much mail can come through a maximum security prison at Valentines day….LOTS. The girlfriends send those big cards, you know the ones that are as large a a child. Then they proceed to pour an entire bottle of perfume on the card and send it in with the pictures no one should be taking to their man. I am sorry that again wrong meaning of Valentines day.
My husband and I already told each other that we love each other and there will be no gift buying this year. With a totaled car last week and some health challenges in the last year we have expressed we are here for the other person and will continue to be there for them. Our children yes- I will probably get them some candy and a card. It is fun for them on this day but I hope they know everyday I am proud of them and love them to the moon and back.
So we still need to make a valentine box for our son to take to school. He wants one to look like a welder. We need to get the cards and have him write his name on them. That will be enough tears to last me a month, he is already whining about writing his name. My daughter is just having a movie party without the cards. It just cuts down on the drama in the class, I can see that.
So Happy Valentines Week to you all. I hope you have a wonderful day that you can tell people you love that you love and appreciate all they do in your life. I will continue to kiss my kids goodnight and when I take my kids to school I always tell Greta I love her and Henry and I do the ASL sign for I love you to each other. It is just our thing.
Those that don’t have that significant other make sure you tell a co-worker, a parent, a friend or the cashier at the coffee shop that you thank them for being special in your life. That is what the day means to me, a reminder that we are loved and we are called to love each other.